lexcanroar: a couple of people have told me off today for continuing to express my... 

lexcanroar:

elzapan:

lexcanroar:

a couple of people have told me off today for continuing to express my opinions. they’ve said that it’s “annoying”, and that I “attack” anyone with an opposing view to my own.

firstly, this is all in response to me talking about sexual harassment and rape culture. apparently it’s “annoying” for…

Firstly, I don’t condone the sexist attitude that men have towards women, and it’s quite disgusting. But since there is very little you (and women in general) can do about it, and that there is little harm in what is essentially a very loud and obnoxious compliment, is it so hard to just accept it as a boost of your self esteem?

A man has just called you hot, from a far, and hasn’t physically attacked you in any way, so in this instance I don’t really understand why you’re so angered by it.

Obviously, when it gets to the stage of “in da club” grinding and actual physical harassment and rape and “well she was asking for it” that is wrong and incomprehensible that it’s even an argument. But I’m not discussing that issue, I am simply asking about why you are so affected by men doing this. 

“is it so hard to just accept it as a boost of your self esteem?”

you just told me to see harassment as a compliment, I refuse to engage in any further debate with you. 

Agree. If you lay down and accept sexual harassment like this, it becomes “acceptable”. It is not acceptable, it’s degrading and grotesque. Why is some asshole’s lack of manners a compliment? It’s the delivery that conveys more about the meaning of the message than the actual message itself. The delivery here says that the woman in question does not deserve respect or courtesy, because that’s exactly what shouting or whistling shows: a lack of any sort of consideration or manners. Why? Because to these bastards, women are objects that men may treat as they see fit (male privilege, anyone?), and further, objects whose primary value lies in the way they look. The reason that some men continue to do this kind of shit is because no one has ever slapped the figurative fuck out of them and shown them that it’s not acceptable. It’s not. It never will be.